30 Things I would tell my College self.

June 14, 2014


I was hesitant to post this, as I didn’t want it to be irrelevant to some…and then I realized that so many of the things we learn at the different seasons of our lives never become irrelevant or unimportant, they just mean something different.

So whether you are in highschool, college, post-grad or 50 years old, I hope you remember to tell yourself these things

30 Things I would tell my College self: (or my now-self too )

1. I know you are reading this via your smart phone but please don’t spend all your time on that thing. Be present where you are and immersed in the lives of those you are with.

2. Use your free time wisely.  I promise you will one day look back and realize how much time you had and how much of a luxury that is.

3. Don’t take advantage of the beauty around you just because you see it everyday. Take walks frequently and soak it in.

4. Don’t focus on everyone liking you. It is statistically proven that 10% of people will not like you, for whatever reason, so don’t let them get to you! People-pleasing is super time-consuming.

5. Even though I know you won’t listen but do what you know you need to do RIGHT now and don’t procrastinate so much. I promise your well-rested self (if you ever find her) will thank you.

6. Call your parents frequently. So much of who you are you owe to them and the sacrifice they’ve made for you. Thank them as often as possible for this opportunity.

7. Find out what drives you, what makes you stay up at night, what stirs a wildfire in your soul. And learn as much as you can about whatever that is.

8. Hang around people who believe in you. You will have enough bumps in the road because that is just how life is; put yourself around people who see your potential and encourage you to seek the best for your life.

9. Go to church every Sunday. I know, I know, you are TIRED and Sunday is your “only day to sleep in”. But trust me, it will be a source of relief for your spirit.

10. Don’t over-promise yourself and your time. It is far more important to be committed and be able to follow-through in a few things than to do many things halfway.

11. So you have a zit? And you’ve gained 10 pounds? Give yourself a BREAK. College is like Monopoly- you pass the front gate and you gain ten pounds. LOVE yourself, exactly where you’re at.

12. Do not minimize or take advantage of the chance to receive an education. SO many people are not given this opportunity. Cherish it!

13. Work hard. There is no substitute for hard work and dedication. There just isn’t. So put in the time- it will be worth it.

14. Take time to learn from others around you that you admire and respect- whether that be professors, mentors, older sorority sisters, the coffee barista, whomever! Valuable lessons are only learned when people sit down long enough to learn them.

15. Take pictures. You will want to remember all these things you’ve experienced and trust me, it will fly by.

16. Do something everyday that your future self will thank you for. When you remind yourself of your goals and your potential, you will find that your present self is already on the right road.

17. Invest in those around you and be a good friend. Listen to them when they need someone to talk to, encourage them when they fall and cheer them on when they succeed!

18. It isn’t all about you. CRAZY, RIGHT?!?! But seriously, venture outside of your own world often enough to know that your world can be pretty small.

19. Be adventurous! Do things that scare you. Take risks. Who knows, you may just find your new major that way

20. Eat fruits and vegetables. I know this sounds crazy but pizza and cereal are not the only foods available in your college town.

21. You will never find your happiness in any other relationship, whether friendship or romantic, other than the one who made you. So, just give everyone a break, and don’t put expectations on them that they can’t fulfill.

22. Don’t’ be afraid to change the direction of your path. Maybe before you wanted to be a doctor but as you have grown to learn and get to know yourself, you realize you are a better teacher. Be a teacher!!!

23. YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES. YOU WILL FAIL. But it is in these times- when you are tested- that you grow  the most. A flower must grow through the dirt, right?

24. Remember to be grateful every single day for the life you have been given. Undeserved, free, full of opportunity- it is a gift.

25. Going your own way isn’t a bad thing. In fact, in order to be a leader, you have to be okay with going off the beaten path sometimes.

26. Social media isn’t life. It’s like 0.02345% of life and the events that take place. So while you may constantly see other people’s highlight reels, don’t be discouraged by your own. Let it fuel you or DELETE it.

27. Go after your dreams! Cheesy, yes, but seriously- why wouldn’t you? Don’t let doubt or insecurity determine the direction you take. The time is now!

28. Be a part of a team of some sort. Whether it is an intramural team, a debate team or a community service team. Take the time to serve other people and remember what it is like to work together to achieve a goal.

29. No matter what, always always always remember that your identity doesn’t lie in your involvements, your degree or your appearance: It lies in Jesus.  Make Him proud!

30. Last but not least, when you are reminded of important things or learn new things, apply them. Don’t just read them, relate to them or sympathize with them – DO them!They might just change the next list of “30 Things I would tell my Former Self”.

“’For I know the plans I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” -Jeremiah 29:11

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