Burn the “Supposed to” Picture

March 29, 2016

You know what I think screws us all up so much?!

The picture in our minds of what our life is SUPPOSED to look like.

Whether it be our place on the corporate ladder, our relationship status, the number in our bank account, how many kids we should have by now or whatever it may be.

Whether we realize it or not, consciously or subconsciously, we are constantly being fed messages of what our life is supposed to look like and who we should be. As if the natural human tendency to compare ourselves to our surroundings isn’t enough, we now have gained CONSTANT access to Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat and every other method of social interaction possible.

We. never. stop.

We keep looking, reaching, desiring, craving, envying, boasting, wishing, comparing and wanting and all the while, we forget about living.

We stop cheering, celebrating, encouraging, trusting, supporting, hoping, learning and living out of a fulfilled state.

We, somehow in the midst of the madness, have forgotten that we were never supposed to be told by the world who we are— we were always supposed to tell the world who we are.

We are children of the most High King. That is not an allusive, ambiguous role we have been given- that is truly our birthright. The hands that shaped us have spoken over us a new identity and it is not just our duty, but our honor, to live out of the truth that breathed life into our bones.

Now, am I saying that this is easy?


I struggle all the time. All the time. Constantly. In fact, I’m writing this because I think I am needing to remind myself in this current moment.

When people used to tell me “Just BE, Cleere!”, I would get so annoyed. Like, no prob! Sure thang! I will get right on that.

But I learn more and more how crucial that is- to just be- and to be content with that. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing and with the person that you have become, REST. Sure, we all have so many things we need to improve on. Yes, the world is waiting and we have goals to attack and a to-do list to tackle!

But if our hearts are heavy and our minds fill with anxiety the second our hands stop moving because we are trying so desperately to be enough, we will never know what “enough” feels like. It will be a mountaintop that becomes unachievable to the perfectionist mindset and every day becomes a walk of shame based on unrealistic goals, impossible standards and a picture of your life that was never actually meant to be your life.

So—can we just all stop? Can we stop writing #goals on pictures on Instagram of other people’s lives that robs us of our ability to celebrate them and turns the focus on ourselves? Can we let where we are be enough? Can we abandon the picture we have cooked up in our heads of what our lives is supposed to be like and accept, trust and believe that we are exactly where we are supposed to be?

We must.

This life is so brilliant and we are so capable but we must get a handle on our expectations. The Lord knows the desires of our hearts, our cries are not faint from His ears and He sees our thoughts before we process them ourselves. Don’t you think that He will take care of you?

Do you trust that He is who He says He is? If so, you can “just be”, no matter what. No matter what.

Okay? Okay.

Take that picture of the “supposed to” and burn it. Let the one He is painting be enough—invest in it, celebrate it, be ALL THERE.

I bet once you do that, you’ll realize how much you like what the Artist upstairs is up to after all

“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.” -1 Timothy 6:6-7

“Then he said to them, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.” -Luke 12:15

“For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” -Matthew 6:32-33



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