Some are easy to make. Others tear at our heartstrings and take us far too long.
Some require great risk and courage. Others are obvious, making small the bravery it takes to move forward.
Why is it that there are some decisions in our lives that absolutely consume us until we press “green” or “red”?
The older I have become and the more that difficult decisions present themselves, I have realized that this decision-making process is not nearly as convoluted as I make it. I rummage through every possible outcome in my head, exaggerating the consequences on either end, sifting through the “what-ifs” and desperately trying to find a way to have my cake and eat it too.
What do I mean?
Well if I know my decision won’t be popular, I work extremely hard to receive confirmation from those around me, therefore not having to worry that others will not agree with the path I am choosing to take.
If I know my decision will heed me having to face a fear I have run away from for quite some time, I will seek to somehow find a middle ground. In other words, how can I keep moving forward and improving without having to directly face situations that I know will be hard?
I’m makin’ myself sound really bad here but the truth is- I think we all do it. Whether we realize it or not, we make decisions FAR more difficult than they need to be! We pull out all the classic lines like:
“I am just going to pray through it and seek clarity.”
“I feel like maybe I am supposed to wait before going one way or the other.”
“I don’t want to make the wrong decision and (insert name here of important person you don’t want to disappoint) disagrees with it so I am just not sure it’s right for me.”
Wah. Wah. Wah.
What that really looks like is: I have received clarity but if I am truthful about how that vision looks for my life, it means stepping forward into something that scares me.
I am scared of failing or being rejected so I am going to stay ambiguous, keep on safe ground, which hopefully will exempt me from having to deal with this altogether.”
Or I care more about what others think of me than what God thinks of me SO even though I know He is calling me in one direction, I am going to pin it on someone’s wise and valuable opinion, as that is easier to understand.
Please do not misunderstand me- I think we should ALWAYS go to Him in prayer and seek the wisdom of our Heavenly father every time we make a decision, ESPECIALLY the hard ones!
However, I am just saying that once receive that answer, that clarity, that “green light”, we can’t be scared to move forward and act as though we never heard Him.
I have realized that it is not the decisions that we have to make that are so complicated; it’s the decision to display courage or fear that is complicated. Because the reality is, we usually know which way we are supposed to go. And why is that? Because the Bible explicitly states that our God is a God of clarity. He does not advise His children to seek His direction and then not offer them clarity in which direction that is for their lives.
Making a decision feels final, it feels consequence-heavy, it feels real and tough and scary. I am not sitting here saying that because making decisions is more SIMPLE than we make it, that it also means it is also EASY.
No, it’s hard. And often puts us circumstances that aren’t preferable at first. But can I tell you something? When you live a life that displays courage in the midst of those “life-altering” decisions, your life is full.
Not easy, full. Abundant. Life-giving. World-changing.
Don’t make the simple, hard. When God has given you clarity, listen. When He has directed you towards the unpopular route, follow. When He has asked you to abandon your prior perspective, let it go.
A life that is weary of making decisions is stagnant and dull. It doesn’t shine His light brightly because it chooses to mute any chance it has of breaking the mold. It would rather fit in, be safe, keep on the ground that it has always walked.
And that’s not the life we want to live. Is it? Be courageous. Trust His direction. Move forward. Make THAT decision that you know you need to and believe that He only has your best in mind.
Happy Monday, friends!
“And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.” –Isaiah 30:21
“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” –James 1:5