AH, even the word makes me want to look away.
I don’t know about you, but I have never, ever, EVER been a fan of confrontation.
I think it started since the day I entered this big world, it just seemed like something my soul was not built for.
But, like most things in life, it’s something I eventually had to confront, pun intended.
When I did so, I realized something really crucial.
It was not the actual confrontation that scared me, it was the perception I had of what the results of that confrontation would be that scared me.
When it came to friendships, I was terrified that I might actually lose a friend.
When it came to relationships, I was scared I might actually have to say goodbye to someone if I confronted what was really going on.
When it came to family, I didn’t want to cause tension. Also, they know me the best and keeping an issue secret was more painful than I thought.
When it came to life situations and circumstances, I was anxious and fearful that if I confronted what was really going on sometimes, I wouldn’t be able to handle it or that those around me wouldn’t stick around to even see.
All of those thoughts stem from one common feeling: Fear.
Hint: Keyword is “feeling” there.
Don’t get me wrong, some of the time, those hypothetical things I had figured up in my head really did happen.
I did have to say goodbye to someone I loved.
Friendships have evolved as situations and issues were confronted.
I did have to say things and speak my feelings and it did hurt, them and me.
Life’s circumstances often did feel like a rollercoaster that I purchased the ticket for but the ride wasn’t turning out how I thought it would be.
But you know what?
ALL of that made me stronger.
Every single morsel of the hardship helped carve me into who I am today and made me realize how non-independent I was: I needed Jesus.
As I reflect on each of those times I had to confront something or someone, I don’t even understand or comprehend how God used it so perfectly to weave my story.
He taught me a very important lesson: Warriors can’t be scared of confrontation if they want to win the battle.
I will have times in my life that I will have to face things I do not want to face and I will have people in my life that I do not understand.
I also will do things that I am not proud of and make mistakes that I wish I could take back.
But, If I am willing to confront reality with vulnerability in my brokenness and confidence in His perfection, I will be alright.
I think that’s the biggest thing for me, being okay with admitting the imperfections.
If I do not let people see when I am broken, how will they be able to see how Jesus restores?
Another small life lesson that brings me back to the big one I keep getting reminded of: It’s not about me.
It’s about Jesus.
Also, having guts is absolutely necessary to getting anywhere.
Instead of being afraid to have some, I have made my own acronym for GUTS:
God-given Utterances of Truth Shared.
Jesus was merciful, tender and gracious.
But He absolutely stood His ground and always represented truth in every situation.
Guts are God-given.
They allow you to face your fears, whether it be boldly admitting an imperfection, confronting your past that scares you or someone who has wronged you or just letting light into the cracks of your life that seem far too brittle and deep to restore.
As crazy as this sounds, I am beginning to see confrontation as a GOOD thing! I never thought I’d see the day.
Whether it’s you who did the wrongdoing or the wrongdoing happened to you, addressing the issue in the light is absolutely necessary.
It is like medicine for your heart mind and soul.
It sheds a little more light in on your life and that is EXACTLY what Jesus wants for you!
The truth of the matter is this: Hiding anything from yourself or someone else steals energy that you need to run your race of freedom.
Trust me, when you do confront a situation or a person in your life that has been tugging on your heart and weighing on your mind, a sense of relief will flood your bones like a river in the desert.
You no longer have to be afraid of what people think of you or what your circumstances will be when you confront someone or something.
Because the only One who matters is Jesus and He has already made up His mind: He is head over heels for you!
The issue, the person, the situation, the idol, the stumbling block, the past that haunts you, the broken relationship, the abuse….WHATEVER IT IS.
You have the key to the shackles, friend.
Why would you choose to keep them on when the light is just ahead?
Praying for you
“They confronted me in the day of my disaster, but the Lord was my support.” –Psalm 18:18
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” –Matthew 18:15