January 23- Your Monthly Check-up to Get Real.

January 23, 2014

new year's resolution blog.



I don’t really mean this E-card but you know that’s funny.

For real though- New Year’s Resolutions-let’s talk about those while we are on the subject.

How are you doing on those?

Hitting the gym like you said you would?

Avoiding sodas, yeah?

Writing every morning?

Praying more?

Started re-modeling that room you swore you would?

Or keeping a clean email inbox?

Whatever it is- how ya doing with it?

I ask you this question because as I got up this morning and went to turn off my alarm clock, I couldn’t help but see the big “JANUARY 23” on my phone.


Good lawd.

Where does the time go?

I believe it disappears to the same foreign land as my missing socks that I place in my dryer and the money from my paycheck…or maybe not the second one.

But truly, where are you at with your resolution? Or your goals for this year?

After that date straight up smacked me in the face this morning, I started reflecting on all of this.

The truth is- when we are in the midst of trying to achieve our goal, when we are going throughout the day and in the thick of the process, it seems really difficult.

We hit the 3 o’clock slump and H2O just doesn’t have the same punch as a soda….maybe just this ONE time, right?

We are so busy we go throughout the entire week and get to Sunday and realize…wait, when’s the last time I intentionally spend some time thanking Jesus?

The room we were going to re-model, well, those were high aspirations. Maybe next year when we make more money.

Do you see where I am going with this?

I know that during the day, in the midst of the moment, that decision to not stick with your goal feels SMALL.

It’s hard, and often feels impossible, to stay determined and motivated when you’re in the thick of it- exhausted, worn out, busy- and that goal you set just isn’t your top priority.

BUT then you look at your phone on January 23 and you realize that if you had just stuck to your goals and kept your focus, you would’ve already developed that healthy habit or had 23 days under your belt of celebrating success in that area.

Easy to see in retrospect.

Impossible to avoid the realization in hindsight.

I guess I am saying- start today.

Because the reality is, when you form a habit to NOT form a habit, you will achieve it and your goal will be yet another far-off reality.

In other words, unless you are proactively pursuing your goal, you will effectively not meet it because after you skip one day…then the next…then the next…

It gets easy to say “maybe next year.”

I am challenging you all, as I am doing with myself, to rely on the strength of the One bigger than you to set your goals and prioritize accordingly to meet them!

That’s why people deem New Year’s Resolutions so “pointless”, because so often we fail within the first few months, we just go ahead and call it a day.

There’s no doubt we try to justify ourselves with different things and reasons “beyond our control” but the truth is this:

Your goal is not too big for you.

Your mindset is too small for you.

When I used to work at a gym in college, they would say “Just wait until March…all the New Year’s Resolution-ies will be gone by then.”

And unfortunately, it never failed to be true.

And you know what each and every single one of those people had in common?


You know where good intentions get you?

In your head? Very far.

In reality? Absolutely no-flippin’-where.

Be real with yourself- what are you doing to get yourself where you desire to go? What are you doing to proactively pursue your goals? Form those new habits you told yourself you would work on?

Trust me when I say this- You will regret not staying disciplined and focused if you get to February 23 and you are STILL in the same place and mindset as you are today.

Start today.

And do it again tomorrow.

And the next day.

And on January 31, prepare your mindset to attack February with unwavering confidence because despite your inconsistencies and lack of focus that you welcomed at first, you refuse to go back there.

Don’t be insane.

Don’t expect different results when you are keeping the same priorities every single day.

Change them up.

When you dare to believe that you can do something you’ve never done before, when you decide that you are going to go after something you’ve always avoided- you will find immense gratification in the fact that you absolutely CAN do it.

IF and only IF you take it moment by moment, day by day, week by week, and realize His grace is sufficient but you can’t skip too far ahead.

You have to stick to your goal in today’s frame.

It will suck some days (bein’ real).

And other days, you will be encouraged.

But habits are formed by those who focus and prioritize, not by people with good intentions & good excuses.

“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” -Hebrews 12:11

It’s January 23, 2013.

What’s it gonna look like for you on February 23, 2013?

I hope not the same.

Praying for y’all!

“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” -Proverbs 25:28

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