Have you ever noticed how good we are at making assumptions? Whether it be regarding someone we don’t know, the future of our own circumstances, or someone close to us, we tend to let our tiny minds compose their own conclusions.
We hear of consequences and attach our own story of how they got there. We see someone who is lost and we connect the dots that our minds can follow. We hear of relationships ending or beginning, families having issues, friends going through hardships or whatever it may be and we leave little room for grace. Right?! Have you done that before?
Because it is so easy. It’s our human nature to think that we know it all. Our natural tendency is to hear parts of a story and fill in the rest for ourselves. But how much of that story do we really know? How much of that person’s heart have we sat down to listen to?
Think about your own story- the mistakes you’ve made, the successes you’ve had, the heartbreak you’ve endured, the challenges you’ve overcome– is it easy to sum up? Or is your garden full of complexities and irregularities and surprises and challenges and difficulty and….humanity? Isn’t it always deeper?
I think we would do well to assume nothing and just expect Jesus. When you hear gossip, take a step back. When you open your own mouth, take a step back. When you see someone fall down, take a step back. When you find yourself connecting their dots, take a step back.
Let’s be askers and not assumers. What if instead of making a snap assumption or judgement, you took that opportunity to ask: “How is your heart?” Or “How can I help you?”
That’s our role, friends. Let’s stay in our lane and be encouragers. Because we know Jesus makes good of EVERY story, how cool is that?
“Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 1:6