The gray area, the in-between, the back-and-forth, the messy stuff.
The uncertainty that comes with so many of life’s circumstances, the surprising reactions we receive from family or friends, the things that happen that seems so opposite of what we…expected?
Because the reality is this: Life will never go as we plan and people will always disappoint us.
That’s just how it goes! Half the time, our pain was not intentionally caused by someone plotting our demise, but rather just the way the world works. We come to a point where we stop setting expectations and we just expect nothing.
Nothing horrible but also nothing great.
I was talking to my friend recently about her relationship with her father. She said something that really stuck with me- she said that it was never how low the lows were that got her, it was the change from the highs that never made sense. It was the lack of consistency, the constant surprise of how her father would be one day versus another. If she built her expectations on His approval one day, they would be destroyed by His disapproval the next.
So instead of walking in assurance, she stayed walking on eggshells. The lack of consistency on her father’s part made her unable to set expectations of how he would reciprocate, which made a normal relationship very difficult.
Friends, that is so not our Heavenly Father.
I know that we all have had people hurt us, disappoint us and confuse us with how they treat us, especially when it is someone close to us. But can I tell you this- that is the opposite of who Jesus is. You do have a place to hang your hat on. You do have a basket that you can put ALL your eggs into, because guess what?
In a world of inconsistencies and failed expectations, He is the only constant; the One who will always far exceed any expectations you set for Him.
You can depend on Him.
Life may be full of uncertainties but Jesus? He is not.
He is constant and sure.
His love is eternal.
He is as faithful as the sky is blue.
His response will always be one of grace and not of guilt.
His temperament will forever remain ushered in peace, not of confusion.
He is certain of who He is and we can be too.
He isn’t manipulated, controlled or surprised by circumstances, because He is completely sovereign over everything.
His nature has been established from the beginning and nothing that enters or exits this world will ever change that.
If you look throughout the bible, the settings and stories make for the uncertainty, for the messy, for the gray area, but our Jesus remains steadfast in His character and His heart. What is surprising about Jesus is how what He went through on this earth and how those around him treated Him never made a difference to what He said, what He did or who He was.
We can rest in His assurance, knowing that nothing we could do in this life would make us have to walk on eggshells with Him. Our actions do not determine His moodiness. His love is sure and His joy is constant. Do not let what man has done set the expectation for what your God can and will do.
He is certain that you are His and that you are immeasurably loved. Okay?
That is all the assurance that you need.
“God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent; Has He said, and will He not do it? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good? “Behold, I have received a command to bless; When He has blessed, then I cannot revoke it.” -Numbers 23:19-20