I feel like life has just been non-stop lately.
My schedule seems to be jam-packed, my sleep has been rather non-existent and my brain…well I left it out there somewhere in the midst of the craziness.
Truly though, I was at the point this past Monday where someone actually asked me, “How are you? You don’t seem yourself?”
Which, unbeknownst to them, I proceeded to have a slight breakdown as I went through all the different things going through my tiny head.
That’s all I have to say!
I am pretty sure they asked to be courteous, but I suppose they didn’t expect such an honest and transparent response.
As I verbally recognized what was going on, I realized that I was having a serious issue with something in my life:
Honestly, I wanted to punch myself in the face!
It seems that the older I get, the more I realize that the most precious thing we can offer someone is our time.
Of course, we want to offer them love and care and affection and all that jazz, but what must we first commit before those things are possible?
Well, due to my people-pleasing personality and my fear of missing out or wasting time, I had over-committed my schedule, poorly managed any “free time” I might have and put myself in a zombie-like coma I did NOT have to be in.
While my breakdown wasn’t my best moment, I really think it made me take a step back and reflect on my schedule, my commitments, my priorities and my intentions behind those priorities.
I realized a few really important things from doing so:
1. Saying “yes” to everything sets you up to over-promise and under-deliver.
I don’t know about you, but if I make a commitment and put my name with something, I want to honor that commitment! I want to be present, attentive and intentional in that place.
By checking “yes” to every box, I was setting myself up to be a HOT MESS who was battling the stress of an over-promised schedule and the worry of an under-delivered performance.
2. People do not expect you to say “yes” to everything.
This, for some odd reason, has taken me years to understand.
I just assumed that everyone was a superhero and we all had the ability to turn back time and stretch ourselves thin with commitments and goals and efforts.
It was actually today that I said “no” to something and the response still kinda surprised me.
“Okay, no worries! I probably won’t go for long either.”
WHAT? REALLY? YOU UNDERSTAND? Oh and I’M NOT ALONE? THAT IS AWESOME NEWS!!!!!
(Yes, Cleere. Idiot)
I promise that people worth having around understand the need to step back and have a day of rest or say “no” to something.
Not every “fun” opportunity is a wise option for you to choose.
3. When you check every box, they are all the same size.
Let me explain: When you commit yourself to everything under the sun, you give yourself ZERO room to be really intentional with certain relationships or prioritize more time toward things that matter the most to you.
Everything is on an equal playing field.
Which eventually means that something meaningless can replace your time with Jesus during the day.
Or you spend your time at a party you don’t want to go to rather than investing in a friendship you deeply care about.
Life was not meant to be just a series of events and casual coffee dates. If you aren’t careful with how you spend your time, you will realize that you’ve de-valued the things that mean the most to you!
4. “The price of anything is the amount of life you trade for it.” –Henry David Thoreau
I don’t even want to try to add anything to that because that is just SO solid.
And so true.
How much does something or someone mean to you?
Well, how much life/time have you traded for it?
I don’t know about you, but that so challenges me.
It makes me want to seek discernment, passionately say “YES!” to my assignments and “no” to my distractions.
Not everything set or offered before us is our specific assignment.
In fact, saying “no” and resting is not just legal, it is BIBLICAL.
In all His perfection, His glory, His power, He knew that He needed to have time to rest and retreat to spend time with the Father.
Because, you see, that’s the thing, If we want to make a Kingdom impact, we have to spend time with the King.
So, be careful what you sign up under, friends.
Check boxes that MATTER.
“Yes” and “no” are powerful words: use them wisely.
Praying for you!
“Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom.” -James 3:13
“For you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” -James 1:3