Their joy is not your job.

You are not the keeper of everyone’s happiness.
You are not required to rescue every heavy moment, rewrite someone else’s story, or hold the emotional temperature of a room.
You can show up in love, but their joy is not your job.
It can feel loosing and it will feel HARD to release—because you care! Because you want healing! Because you yearn for unity! Because you crave connection in that way—and that’s okay…but truly, really, loving others is releasing the desire and need to be their source. Because you simply can’t be.

It’s okay to let people feel their sadness without trying to cheer them up.
It’s okay to feel the imminence of the dark cloud and know it’s present but to not let it take away your sunshine.
It’s okay to not know what to say and to ask for constant help from the Holy Spirit.
It’s okay to sit in silence and still be fully present.
It’s okay to not be their solution, their sunshine, or their constant encouragement because you’re worn out fighting to stay connected to the source.
It’s okay to love someone deeply and still honor your own capacity.
It’s okay to hate the wreckage of the tension but know it’s building something greater, stronger, and better…in time.
It’s okay to WANT joy for everyone—but it’s not okay to let it become your idol.

Because real love doesn’t fix—it holds.
It doesn’t perform—it stays.
It gives people the dignity to feel and the space to heal.

You are not their Savior. Jesus already holds that title.
So breathe. Let go of what was never yours to carry.
Love doesn’t require you to lose yourself—it invites you to stay rooted in truth, even when it’s hard.

No one gets to steal your sunshine…but you also can’t manufacture being theirs 🫶🏻 ☀️